Comments on: For This I Am Thankful http://ellenrebekah.com/557 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 19:00:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Eira http://ellenrebekah.com/557/comment-page-1#comment-13727 Eira Wed, 22 Apr 2009 19:16:19 +0000 http://ellenrebekah.com/?p=557#comment-13727 "I usually find myself wanting so desperately to have time to myself that I put off being a mother" - I recognize this feeling from the year I stayed at home. What I found was that once my little one started going to daycare, both she and I were happier. I got adult time with other adults, she got all the stimulation she needed from great people trained and skilled in the intellectual needs of children her age. And this made the time we had together so much better too. Instead of her needing more stimulation and me needing to get away and use my brain, we now get those needs fulfilled elsewhere and get to enjoy our time together as mother and daughter. Personally I think that most children need a little bit of time away from their parents, once they reach a certain age. It can be family, friends or some form of daycare, not necessarily every day or for the entire day. By spending time with other people they are given the opportunity to explore other sides of theirself, and can get stimulation and experiences from many sources. This is one reason why I personally am not a great fan of homeschooling. It can work if the parents are very diligent in providing external sources for learning and making sure the child interacts with a diverse selection of people, but in most cases I think well educated teachers are better trained in providing children with the learning opportunities and stimulation they need, and that the public school is a great way for a child to learn to interact with many different types of people. I do realize however that different parents have different priorities in this field. “I usually find myself wanting so desperately to have time to myself that I put off being a mother” – I recognize this feeling from the year I stayed at home. What I found was that once my little one started going to daycare, both she and I were happier. I got adult time with other adults, she got all the stimulation she needed from great people trained and skilled in the intellectual needs of children her age. And this made the time we had together so much better too. Instead of her needing more stimulation and me needing to get away and use my brain, we now get those needs fulfilled elsewhere and get to enjoy our time together as mother and daughter.

Personally I think that most children need a little bit of time away from their parents, once they reach a certain age. It can be family, friends or some form of daycare, not necessarily every day or for the entire day. By spending time with other people they are given the opportunity to explore other sides of theirself, and can get stimulation and experiences from many sources. This is one reason why I personally am not a great fan of homeschooling. It can work if the parents are very diligent in providing external sources for learning and making sure the child interacts with a diverse selection of people, but in most cases I think well educated teachers are better trained in providing children with the learning opportunities and stimulation they need, and that the public school is a great way for a child to learn to interact with many different types of people. I do realize however that different parents have different priorities in this field.

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