Practical Romantic
I have always, and I do mean as far back as I can remember, wanted multiple children. This last year or so I have been wanting to have another child. If it is necessary to state a reason some would be: I have more love to give, I do not want Sara Ellen to be an only child. I also have a voice in my head, not of my own creation, a family friend has said you are not a real parent until you have more than one. I think they actually said “until you have 3.” Thankfully this was not directed toward me though I have considered it many times. I could be quoted that I want two or four because one is often left out of a threesome as I know from experience.
All that said, as Sara Ellen neared and passed her third birthday (more often challenging direction) I wondered why I want another child. She has always been a wonderful girl (though we all have our rotten days) but that does not mean parenting is not hard work, especially on the more challenging days.
Here are my rational concerns.
One child is a handful. I am going to add more to the day?
Sara Ellen has been skipping naps since we moved so she is earlier to bed and leaves us no morning leisure. Last week I was grumpy most mornings because my neck ached. Will it not be the same or likely harder adding someone elses sleep patterns? Tim suggested Sara Ellen might snuggle with the baby in the morning instead of running away. Though I did discover today that when she ran downstairs she jumps on the couch. I curled up with her for a while.
Sara Ellen likes to get out a lot and be physically active and I often find it challenging to find new and interesting ways to fill our day. How do I balance the needs of two (plus me and Tim)?
I feel like I am always watching to keep Sara Ellen away from something which could hurt her or she it. How do you split your watchfulness?
I definitley have a set parenting philosophy so that and realistic expectations for myself and child[ren] should help to balance my romantic ideas about my family.
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